How to Deal with Strong Negative Emotions
Feeling mad? Agitated? Angry? These are pretty difficult feelings to soften. Trust me, I know. These past days I have been feeling very offended, angered and triggered by so many things. This post offers an idea on how to deal with strong negative emotions by making a small shift to where you focus your attention.
We all have those times when there is this one aspect our lives that is just…just feels wrong. Like you are victimized. Like you are not being heard. Like it is not happening the way we think it is supposed to.
So..in a simple way.. How to Deal with Strong Negative Emotions?
Let me share one of the simple approach that helps me when I am spiraling down in well of negativity and anger. Because. …who wants that?
Energy Flows where attention grows
James Redield
They say Energy flows where attention grows. This is pretty much aligned with the Law of Attraction, which on a general level says:
That which is alike is drawn to it.
Quoted from The Law Of Attraction by Abraham Hicks.
Now even if you are not into believing this Universal Law, or maybe you are not ready to hear about it, it is fine. You can still use this as a tool to soften and to divert strong feelings of anger and resentment.
What we Focus on, Grows Big
When we focus on one thing, and we see how bad it is, and just how wrong it is, the mind automatically becomes a magnet, drawing upon itself similar thoughts. And it will continue to search for evidence to add more wrongness to that situation.
Now, you see what is gonna happen here. You will continue to spiral down, until it is very easy to see negative, easy to feel resentment and easy to get angry over that certain area of your life.
Now stopping a strong negative emotion at its peak is almost impossible. When you are mad, you are. When you are in the tears, crying, hurt, you are.
Once these negative feeling begin to take over, there is no fast way to turn it around..BUT what this tool is offering is that you can make a slight change to where you put your attention to.
Little Diversions, Small Gradual Shift
What if, even for a short while, take off your attention from that area of your life that is a mess for you? Take off your attention from that person who triggers you. Once you feel you are starting to spiral down, make a gentle diversion and focus your mind where it feels good.
Find something to put your attention to. Something that is going right, no matter how small. Now you are still mad, of course. You are hurt of course. Take note of that. But there is so much value in not allowing the negativity to catch more momentum by thinking more and more of what is wrong.
Here you will see, that emotions are actually borne out of our thoughts, our beliefs.
Over time, you will have trained your mind to stop the spiral of negativity.. and watch… as you focus and appreciate one area of your life, it will be easier and easier to gain perspective and see how the other area just falls right into place. We just need to be in a better position to see it.
Now even if you do not have any negative emotions, it is a good practice to put your attention to the things that uplift you, things that inspire you, those things brings you joy. And you will see the magic- that you actually become a magnet for more of these things.
