One major thing that has influenced our way of life these past months has been our move. Early this year, we have started the initial planning of transitioning from our old place to a new one with my family.
This decision, on the surface, has its sad side, because always, parting and farewell is a big part of every transition. This very transition- the sad farewell- and moving on to new territories of life for my family and the people who are involved in the transition, has caused me to really turn deep within.
Let me say, that the farewell has been a long, kind of a challenging process. Enough for me to better myself, to tap into my inner resources of trust, and of allowing the Universe to move to its own perfection. Essentially, It was like undergoing an inner education to remain calm and loving to myself and to others, despite what was going on around me.
And now, we are in a new place. Still, we are in the process of transition. We are still in the midst of a “big move”. Let’s just say this is our first stop- an apartment.
Our Previous Home
I have nothing but love for that very first home I co-owned with my Aunt here in Canada. They say when you leave a home for a new one, you must bless the precious abode with love so that the new family who will live there will feel the same vibes.
I am blessing that home with love. My sweet, sweet abode where we spent our early lives as a young family, where we raised our children, and essentially- it was a place where everyone in our extended family gathered and bonded mostly week after week.
I am grateful for a lot of things, but here are the major ones:
There was never a time when I was not safe in that house. We had sweetest neighbors, and while the area may give us some reason for caution at times, nothing and no one has ever harmed me or my family within the vicinity of our home, and I am so grateful for that.
From the first time I set my eyes on that house, it was its coziness that has caught my attention. Adjacent rooms, a closed living room with a huge window for cozy curtains, and a small kitchen, I love its homey, intimate layout.
I loved living there in silence and calm when it was just me and my aunt, day after day after day. I loved living in there as I shared my new life with my husband. I loved living there as it temporarily turned into a messy, but charming place when we welcomed our little kids. I loved living in it, in all seasons we went through.
It was also living in this home that has allowed to develop resilience. When things are rough, when situations started to get challenging- it was there that I kept deciding to keep close to God, to ask for guidance and to develop Faith.
If the challenging things that happened there did not happen, I would not have prayed more, read more, learned more. I would not have cared for my body. If that home was all flowers and dainties, I would not have learned meditation or yoga. I would not have strived to grow my baking blog.
If things were not difficult, I would not have asked God, “How can this be better?” ” How can I be better?” But everything was as it was in that house because they must, and I am better and changed because of it.
Finally, our sweet home allowed me to hope. Each time and again, inside that house, joy returned after every trial. Calm returned after every chaos. I found hope in that place. I keep hope in my heart because of that place. I knew always and always that no matter how hard it gets, there is always an option to wait, to hope for better things.
What did not work in that house allowed my consciousness to give birth to a desire for a new set-up, a new life, a new path. A new beginning which I know, with trust and hope, is the best thing for one and all.
What Transition Are you Going Through?
Transitions are not always smooth. Often they seem scary and uncertain. These past months has been a trying one. I have read an Instagram post from Jen Hatmaker and the message really struck me: that you cannot always control the things that happen around you, but how you deal with them is your responsibility.
See the difficult times as a season of learning. Allow the difficult to be difficult because things are not going to stay that way. There is a season for everything, including the season of difficulty you are in right now.
The Universe is always flowing to perfection. In doing so, it may rearrange your life and shake you. It is not personal! Whether you whine, accept, be anxious, or be trusting, The Universe will go about its business, and that is to bring everything in it to perfection from time to time.
Gratitude is a saving grace. Always. Give me one thing that does not seem to work in your life. Then I dare you to name three things that are working well in your life. I bet you can name more than three. Gratitude changes your perspective. Gratitude can make any moment better, which leads me to the next thing…
Take it Moment by Moment. If you pose on yourself the pressure of feeling great from feeling really, really down, you are only beating yourself up. You don’t have to look at a rough season in your life as something you can tackle as a whole by projecting the future and analyzing so much of the past. If you can think of one better thought for every moment that you feel awful, then that’s great. It does not have to be a super joyful, perfect thought. It does not have to bring you from feeling low to super giddy, but if it gives you even the slightest relief, you are on your way.
If you can choose to not dance away with a negative thought that floats up while you are making coffee, way to go. If you can choose not to add drama to what has been said or done-you rock. If you choose, any single moment, to refuse to replay a negative confrontation, or an awful situation over and over in your mind, know that you are on your way to feel to better.
See this trying time as a moment by moment journey of choosing positivity, calmness and trust. It is a season, after all! It does not rain forever. Joy always returns, so live in positive anticipation of that.