Whether you are craving a social connection or you are burnt out, here is how to deal with loneliness of being a work from home mom.
It does creep in, doesn’t it? Loneliness when you a work from home can sneak in unnoticeable ways. The next thing know, you are overwhelmed with emotions with thoughts firing out in all directions.
Personally, the tandem of motherhood, and being self-employed at home can be a perfect recipe for burnout sometimes. I am at a point when I kind of miss a social connection, and some happy, meaningful conversations.
Which is weird for me to say because I am a real introvert, and also the fact that I chose this. I chose self-employment 11 years ago. I chose to work from home. And it is still a choice that I still make even now.
I am at a point when I think my social skills which are, by default, non existent to begin with are starting to rot away. Put me in a conversational spot with another adult other than my husband and I will freak out on the inside. I think I don’t how to have a conversation anymore. And I find this ironic because connection and conversations are what I crave (I think).
I want to be able to sit in a circle and say things that matter. To say things that really is me- not just random things I say to just for the sake of saying something.
Maybe, what I want is a deep connection, or familiarity. An unfiltered conversation. Maybe what I want is to become me, once again. Or rather, to find me. Do you feel this sometimes? Is it “the little kids stage” of motherhood? Or working remotely? Is this burn out? Or because we are new to this city- no old friends? or family?
I don’t know. This seems more like a rant, to be honest. And I am not really being of help to you, I know. However, in every large group of clouds overhead, there is always a tiny glimpse of light peeping in. So I am not all ranting out and leaving myself without relief.
So, do you also work at home and feel lonely? Here are My Personal Tips to Deal With Loneliness of Being A Work From Home Mom.
How to Deal with WAHM Loneliness
Know that this is a Season.
Life is a series of seasons. Each time I am going thru difficulty, this has always given me relief. Seasons. This season of my life right now is majorly dirty diapers, breastfeeding, little kids, raising little kids, messy house. I get to embrace this. Most importantly , its all about little kisses, hugs, funny kids, sweet cuddles and being the best comedian ever to my kids. Without a single doubt- I matter to my kids.
Know that I Can Always Make Micro Changes to Improve or Shake my Situation
We can always do something. We can always make little shifts in our perception. Sometimes, acceptance and embracing the present is the ” shift”.
Also adding music as a back ground in one of your daily routines can be a game changer. Eating foods you love, a brand new TV show, reading a good book and trying something new are all great ways to connecting with yourself again.
Know that the Hard Times Can be A Time for Breakthrough
Well.. yes, maybe I do not know how to talk to people anymore. Maybe it is awkward for me to be in a social setting after years of working from home. Well, great then. I can read a book or two about self-confidence. I can take a public speaking course.
I can try new things. I have always loved to try Tennis. I may even try an in-person yoga class. There is always something we can do.
I can use this time of raising little kids as a time to work on myself as well. To update my skills, to learn new things to grow my business and to expand my potential.
Another Important Thing is…
I think there is great power in acknowledging what is going on inside me. Rather brushing things aside and not giving “this thing” my attention, looking at it, recognizing that it is happening to me, is a crucial first step.
At the end of the day, everything is a cycle. A natural flow. And if we learn to flow with life and not against it- we always end up greater and better in the easiest, most loving way.