How to Cope with Mom Burn Out

Let us see mom burnout in a different light, something as a reminder to care for ourselves more. Here are my little ways on how to cope with mom burnout. You can share yours, too!

Have you ever felt so tired after a day of tending to the kids, cooking meals, thinking thoughts 24/7, cleaning the kitchen, and dealing with tantrums, then realize you have to do it again the next day?

Have you ever shriveled at the thought that you are in charge of every meal in the household 99.99% of the time? Yes? Well then, hello, my friend.

The Mom Burnout

Whether you work or stay at home, or work outside, it happens. I think that burnout comes in many different forms for us moms.
For me, I spot burnout whenever I crave a minute of stillness, and even the need to escape from it all even for a few moments. Burnout for me is irritability, fatigue and feeling defeated.
The thing is, burnout in general should not be a bad thing. I think it’s normal for us to feel this way. For me, it serves as a signal for us to stop, re-assess, and maybe reposition our mental and emotional state.
This is why I think it is important that we notice ourselves whenever we feel stressed, depressed, or irritable. The presence of mind of knowing that burnout is on the rise is key so that we make it work for us, and not against us.

How to Cope with Mom Burnout?

Whatever I have to say here is not groundbreaking, but it does work for me. I am known to overthink and overstress so being light and taking things easy are important for me.

Hopefully, this inspires you to establish your own way to cope. You know yourself best: what you like and what fires you up.

Shake things Up.

Add a new routine. Try something new. I went back to drinking matcha latte. It gives me something to look forward to each day when I don’t really look forward to all the tasks 🙂

Try music in the background while working. I started playing The Carpenters (an old fave that I forgot to listen to since having kids) while I make school lunches in the morning. It radiates an energy of love and makes me feel calm.

Set a New Goal.

It does not have to be a major one. Small things really make an impact. Goals give me confidence. Goals give me a sense of purpose other than those related to being a mom and wife.

Maybe add a goal to drink more water or to meditate for 5 minutes every morning. My current goal is to incorporate more strengthening exercises to my routine. My end goal? I want to gain muscles.

It just feels so elating to know that you can actually re-invent yourself. This way, you recognize you as You and not just the mom you or wife you.

Rest

Hey there mama, rest! And to be able to rest means you have to let go of some tasks. Know your priorities for the day or week, and focus on that. Let the other things slide.

You can’t aim for perfection at all times. Watch that movie. Read that Book. Watch something that makes you laugh. Motherhood is not all tasks and gettings things done.

You have to check this out: 45 Tired Mom Quotes

Lighten up the Load Mentally

Most of the time burnout starts with constant thinking, worrying, and over-analyzing. I do all these. So whenever I start to feel crappy, I know that the root of it all is the way I think.

It is hard to. I don’t get to. No one cares. No one ever helps me. I should have done it better. I am alone in this. Honestly, all these thoughts add up and they weigh you down massively.

Hit stop and let them go.

The Conclusion.

When we manage mom burnout and work with it rather than ignoring it or pushing it away, we feel more in charge and empowered.

Personally, I think we are happier and more effective as a mom, wife, friend, etc if we see burnout as normal and we become proactive to cope with it.

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